How To Write An Erotic Letter According To Frida Kahlo And James Joyce

How To Write An Erotic Letter According To Frida Kahlo And James Joyce

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By: Maria Isabel Carrasco

January 14, 2019

Books How To Write An Erotic Letter According To Frida Kahlo And James Joyce
Avatar of Maria Isabel Carrasco

By: Maria Isabel Carrasco

January 14, 2019

These characters stood out in their areas and showed how they experienced love and expressed their deepest passions and desires. Get inspired by their letters and see how the art of writing letters can be way more exciting than just sending texts.

There’s nothing more pleasing than the expression of human’s deepest passions and desires. Sexual desire has been an important part of humanity, and it has found ways to be explored in works of art, literary texts, sculptures, etc. However, in recent times, with all the easy and fast access we have to information, society is getting used to being satisfied with jumbled sexting and emojis.

 Imagine those days when people used letters to communicate with their loved ones. Of course, eroticism played an important role in humans relationships, so letters were the perfect means to express an individual’s desires. Here are six erotic letters in which genius minds poured their drives and desires. Leave your phone aside, take notes, and learn how to write the best passionate letter.

James Joyce to Nora Barnacle

“My sweet little whorish Nora,
I did as you told me, you dirty little girl, and pulled myself off twice when I read your letter. I am delighted to see that you do like being fucked arseways. Yes, now I can remember that night when I fucked you for so long backwards. It was the dirtiest fucking I ever gave you, darling. My prick was stuck up in you for hours, fucking in and out under your upturned rump. I felt your fat sweaty buttocks under my belly and saw your flushed face and mad eyes. At every fuck I gave you your shameless tongue come bursting out through your lips and if I gave you a bigger stronger fuck than usual fat dirty farts came spluttering out of your backside. You had an arse full of farts that night, darling, and I fucked them out of you, big fat fellows, long windy ones, quick little merry cracks and a lot of tiny little naughty farties ending in a long gush from your hole. It is wonderful to fuck a farting woman when every fuck drives one out of her. I think I would know Nora’s fart anywhere. I think I could pick hers out in a roomful of farting women. It is a rather girlish noise not like the wet windy fart which I imagine fat wives have. It is sudden and dry and dirty like what a bold girl would let off in fun in a school dormitory at night. I hope Nora will let off no end of her farts in my face so that I may know their smell also.” 

(8 December 1909: 44 Fontenoy Street, Dublin.)

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James Joyce is one of the top authors in the English language. With many masterpieces like 
Ulysses, Finnegans Wake, and Dubliners,  there’s no doubt that Joyce was blessed with the gift of language, but when it came to a personal level, he was the master of explicitness and dirty talk. Apparently, his erotic letters to Nora Barnacle were really straightforward, to the point that he felt the need to ask for her forgiveness: “have I shocked you by the dirty things I wrote to you. You think perhaps that my love is a filthy thing. It is darling, at some moments. I dream of you in filthy poses sometimes. I imagine things so very dirty that I will not write them until I see how you write yourself.” (6 December 1909: 44 Fontenoy Street, Dublin.)

Yeah, Joyce showed no shame while writing to Barnacle, but who cares? He wrote great literary masterpieces and his impudent and dirty letters are not exempt. If you want to be salacious, be like Joyce. 


Frida Kahlo to Diego Rivera

Nothing compares to your hands, nothing like the green-gold of your eyes. My body is filled with you for days and days, you are the mirror of the night, the violent flash of lightning, the dampness of the earth. The hollow of your armpits is my shelter; my fingers touch your blood. All my joy is to feel life spring from your flower-fountain that mine keeps to fill all the paths of my nerves which are yours.” ( From The Diary of Frida Kahlo: An Intimate Self-Portrait)

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Well, this one is way much more poetic and subtle than the previous one. Here, Frida expresses how passionate she’s about the man who, despite being one of her worst tragedies, was the love of her life. Perhaps she doesn’t use very explicit language like our Dubliner, but her visual imagery is quite revealing. If you want to leave things to the imagination, take Kahlo's path...


Allen Ginsberg to Peter Orlovsky

“I have been running around with mad mean poets & world-eaters here & was longing for kind words from heaven which you wrote, came as fresh as a summer breeze & 'when I think on thee dear friend / all loses are restored & sorrows end,' came over & over in my mind — it’s the end of a Shakespeare Sonnet — he must have been happy in love too. I had never realized that before. . . .

Write me soon baby, I’ll write you big long poem I feel as if you were god that I pray to —


Allen” (February 15, 1958)


“I’m making it all right here, but I miss you, your arms & nakedness & holding each other — life seems emptier without you, the soulwarmth isn’t around. . . ”  (February 24, 1958)

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As one of the main representatives of the Beat Generation, Allen Ginsberg was an avid fighter against sexual repression. Also, throughout his life he became very involved with all kinds of movements defending the victims of social injustices. He had a long lasting relationship with the poet and actor Peter Orlovsky, who was an inspiration for his work throughout the years. This is a great way to express in an elegant way one’s desires for that special person.


Charles Bukowski to Linda King

“I liked your hand-walking act; that got me hotter than hell…. everything you do gets me hotter than hell…. throwing clay against the ceiling… you bitch, you red hot shrew, you lovely lovely woman…. you have put new poems and new hope and new joy and new tricks into an old dog, I love you, your pussy hairs I felt with my fingers, the inside of your pussy, wet, hot, I felt with my fingers; you, up against the refrigerator, you have such a wonderful refrigerator, your hair dangling down, wild, you there, the wild bird of you the wild thing of you, hot, lewd, miraculous… twisting after your head, trying to grab your tongue with my mouth, with my tongue… we were in Burbank and I was in love, ultramarine love, my good god damned goddess, my goad, my bitch, my my my my beating breathing hair-lined cunt of Paradise, I love you… and your refrigerator, and as we grabbed and wrestled, that sculpted head watching us with his little lyrical cynical love-smile, burning…

I want you,
I want you,
I want YOU

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In a similar style to James Joyce’s beautiful way to express his emotions, Charles Bukowski explicitly shows his deepest desires towards Linda King by mentioning… a refrigerator? Well, he's Bukowski, what were you expecting? "Shall I compare thee to a summer's day"?


Oscar Wilde to Lord Alfred Douglas 

“Dearest of All Boys — Your letter was delightful — red and yellow wine to me — but I am sad and out of sorts — Bosie — you must not make scenes with me — they kill me — they wreck the loveliness of life — I cannot see you, so Greek and gracious, distorted with passion; I cannot listen to your curved lips saying hideous things to me — don’t do it — you break my heart — I’d sooner be rented all day, than have you bitter, unjust, and horrid — horrid.

I must see you soon — you are the divine thing I want — the thing of grace and genius — but but I don’t know how to do it — Shall I come to Salisbury — ? There are many difficulties — my bill here is £49 for a week! I have also got a new sitting-room over the Thames — but you, why are you not here, my dear, my wonderful boy — ? I fear I must leave; no money, no credit, and a heart of lead —

Ever your own,
Oscar” (March 1893)

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Imprisoned for committing the outrageous crime of homosexuality (yes, this is sarcasm), Oscar Wilde is known for his witty way of satirizing and exposing the society he was living in. In this letter, we can see his concern about people discovering his relationship with the man who became some sort of a muse for him.


Virginia Woolf to Vita Sackville-West

“Look here Vita — throw over your man, and we’ll go to Hampton Court and dine on the river together and walk in the garden in the moonlight and come home late and have a bottle of wine and get tipsy, and I’ll tell you all the things I have in my head, millions, myriads — They won’t stir by day, only by dark on the river. Think of that. Throw over your man, I say, and come.” (January 1927)
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As an important representative of feminism, Virginia Woolf was one of the most influential writers of the twentieth century. Her novels, essays, plays, and other forms of literature, showed her visions and concerns about the turbulent times she lived in. She had a very loving marriage with Leonard Woolf, with whom she had also a strong intellectual affinity. Soon, she met Vita Sackville and fell in love with her. In her letter from 1927, we can see a hard-to-decline invitation to experience a intimate and secret love affair.


These characters stood out in their areas and showed how they experienced love and expressed their deepest passions and desires. Get inspired by their letters and see how the art of writing letters can be way more exciting than just sending texts. 

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