8 Lessons About Love And Sex From The Master Himself: Oscar Wilde

March 8, 2018

|Ariel Rodriguez

“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”

Oscar Wilde was a man who had it all: talent, fame, money, and love. But it didn’t last forever. The author of The Importance of Being Earnest was betrayed by the same people who lauded his work. Yet it was at the height of his career that he was tried and imprisoned for being in love with a man. After two years of being incarcerated for "gross indecency", in other words for homosexuality, Wilde returned to his partner and lived poor, in exile, but with the one he loved. We can definitely learn a lot about love and relationships from the man who chose to live fearlessly, regardless of what the world thought. The following list of quotes may serve as advice for matters of the heart.

“The heart was made to be broken.”

Wilde reminds us that romantic disappointments are bound to happen. It’s through learning experiences that we become stronger and we protect our heart from future disappointments.

“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.”

“The mystery of love is greater than the mystery of death.”

No one can disagree with Wilde on this one. It’s not a scientific formula or a puzzle we can solve. It's an emotion that fills us from the inside, changing our perspective in every way.

“You will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit.”

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”

Wilde’s quote refers to the frustration of not being able to dominate everything by logic, instead our human nature is dominated by our feelings.

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”

“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.”

The person that is worthy of your heart and truly loves you should be the one who knows you the best. Wilde teaches us that those who do not see us as unique are not worthy of our hearts.

“It takes great deal of courage to see the world in all its tainted glory, and still to love it.”


After Wilde was sent to prison, he wrote more. The man who surrounded himself with the richest and most beautiful people of London, soon found out that it was all a curtain of hypocrisy and bluff. He learned that the most important aspect of life is love and not things.

Images by Shawnee Custalow

Ariel Rodriguez

Ariel Rodriguez

Creative Writer