Often we find ourselves talking to people about our or their most traumatic moment of heartache. Just by retelling or listening to these tragic tales, we realize we cannot imagine how we would’ve done things different. And if we do think about it, there’s still no guarantee that things would’ve turned out differently.
It’s strange how, different as we might be, all humans can relate to a broken heart, a lost promise, even a romantic moment that now is gone forever. To be honest with ourselves, there are few things that hurt more than losing someone we thought would be part of our lives forever. The void left when they leave makes us search for them in every place or face on the street. Their memory becomes a ghost that haunts us unexpectedly, bringing fear, anxiety, and despair with them.
The hard part seems to be that we need to live them in order to evolve and grow as human beings. When we turn them into another page in the book of our story, a glimpse into a moment in the past, then they cease to torture us.
Getting over a breakup is something nobody can do for us. We need to get through it alone. Even if those around us want to help, they cannot understand the complexity of feelings that are swimming in our hearts and minds. Nobody can see the depth of what it was for us to lose that someone. Only the person who suffers the loss is able to find a way of dealing with it.
When we’re finally able to beat that feeling that haunts us, we feel relieved. Ecstatic to the point that we want to tell the whole world we’ve made it. The peace brought by knowing that we don’t need of someone else to be whole is something we want to remind ourselves always. One sure way of doing this is through a tattoo that captures the moment.
As strange as it seems, plenty of people all over the world use the sting and buzz of the needle to counteract the feeling of heartbreak. These designs can truly become works of art that remain on our skin as battle scars or medals.
You don’t need to place broken heart tattoos on your skin to commemorate or remember a breakup. You can simply get a reference to something you and your ex used to do. Try to avoid getting their face or name imprinted on your body. There are better ways of keepsaking the moment. Whatever you end up choosing, remember that what matters in a good piece of ink is the meaning. It doesn’t need to be big, on the most visible area of the body, or a full-blown explanation. What makes it special is that it’s now a part of you. It’s a proof of what you’ve been through and what you’ve survived.
Translated by María Suárez