When you’re at their favorite restaurant, what’s the dish that will brighten up their day?
When your partner’s allergies are acting up, what’s one thing you can do to help?
When did they realize what they wanted to do with their life?
What side of the bed do they like?
During their favorite position, what else can you do to give them pleasure?
It’s in those moments that you truly get to know someone, where there are no secrets, and you have conversations of things you wouldn’t even tell your shrink about. Each relationship has its own unique obsessions, excesses, and bizarre rituals, but if you can answer most of these questions, rest assured; you’re definitely on the right path.
There will come a time in your relationship when both of you will wonder just how well you know each other, not necessarily as a bad thing, but because you will suddenly come to realize you complement each other in such a way that it’s like you’ve known each other your whole lives. You’re so in sync that it would be weird if you didn’t know all of this.
What’s the one item of clothing they wouldn’t be caught dead in?
Who was their first love and how did that story end?
Whose heart did they break and how did they do it?
What is their five or ten-year plan?
What book would they read to their future child?
What’s the one place they’d like to discover next to you?
If you’ve answered most of these questions, it means you know just about everything about your partner, at least all the good stuff. But a long-lasting relationship implies getting to know each other on a deeper level. The following might be harder or even painful to talk about.
What is the one thing they’ve always wanted to learn and still haven’t gotten to it?
What are the happiest and the saddest moments in their life?
If they found themselves in a coma, what choice would they want you to make as the responsible party?
What would they want to be done with their remains after they die?
Dreams aside, in which direction do they feel their life is heading?
What are the things they hate about their parents and don’t want to repeat?
It’s important to learn how to be with this person, despite knowing some of the darker aspects about them. What both of you do today will determine your relationship’s future. And one day, that will also become part of the past; what better way to remember it than having amazing memories?
What demons are they still fighting?
What’s the one sexual fantasy they have but can’t or won’t do?
At what point did they decide they trusted you enough to start a relationship with you?
What is the one thing they would never forgive?
What do they not like about you?
Life cannot be rushed. While there are those who easily open up about their deepest secrets, there are those who take years to talk about themselves to another person. But if you and your partner are meant to be, you know how long it will take. Each couple is different, which is why we ask, what are the things you should be able to answer about your partner to know that you are sharing true love?
Translated by María Suárez