You probably think you’re a good partner. That’s something we all tell ourselves to make us believe we’re perfectly fine in our relationships. We don’t like to see ourselves as mediocre in anything we do, and since we care about our partners, we want them to enjoy the time they spend with us. When we’re with our S.O, we try to become a better version of ourselves. We want them to feel comforted and happy by our presence as much as we feel delighted by theirs. Slowly, we start turning into that person, and we convince ourselves that we’ve made great lovers out of ourselves. However, it’s important to let our thoughts aside and allow our actions speak for themselves. Only the lovers who do these 50 things can say they’ve discovered the realms of true, intimate love.
Share your wildest dreams and fantasies.
Share with each other your dreams after waking up.
Be able to identify their cologne or perfume.
Read out loud to each other
Share the failures of the past, especially the painful ones.
Confess your greatest fears.
Predict what the other is going to order at a restaurant.Nibble each other’s ears.
Watch a series religiously.
Care about the other’s sleeping habits.
Give unexpected massages.
Caress their arms until they shiver with pleasure.
Explore their skin as if it was a map.
Talk about nonsense with the seriousness of nineteenth century philosophers.
Dance without musicTickles, tickles, tickles!
Talk ceaselessly until you fall asleep.
Fiercely kiss them whenever there’s a traffic jam.
Spend more time together naked. Wink.
Spend weekends just embracing each other.
Read erotic poems together.
Feel as if their scent is better than any other perfume.
Cut each other’s hair.
Cook some serious gourmet dishes as a team.
Sexting like you were writing a Marquis de Sade poem.
Write love letters out of the blue. Cry together while holding each other.
Take care of their skin and hair.
Stay silent for hours without feeling awkward.
Have breakfast together in bed. Know their sleeping habits.
Talk all through the night until dawn comes.
Laugh at each other’s clumsiness.
Make each other laugh when going through a tough time.
Flirt with each other pretending you haven’t met before.
Make them feel better when they’re at their lowest. Shrug off their bad morning breath.
Know how they got each of their scars.
Laugh together out of the blue without anyone knowing what it is you find so funny.
Be free to fart. Who cares?
Drink wine together and sip from their glassTake care of each other during parties and hangovers.
Let them comb your hair.
Wake them up with the smell of freshly brewed coffee.Dance for each other.
Climax together during sex.
—Can you say that you’re truly a passionate lover?
Images by Phil Chester (@philchester)
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