Social expectations dictate that it’s a man’s job to woo the woman. He’s the Don Juan, the mockingbird who puffs his chest, and recites love poems in the ear of his beloved. His ability resides in his words; he moves his body in such a way that with the slight touch of hands, the female will be on the verge of fainting in her longing to join this male love-machine of seduction and forbidden desires. This delicate flower that seeks to be with this mountain of passion is the story we’ve been sold over and over again.
Another idea that’s been propagated over time is the man as the sleeping volcano or blunt sword. This emasculated creature is only saved once it crosses paths with a Valkyrie who lights a spark in his soul.
Unlike the characterizations portrayed in these fables, we are complex beings. So instead of pigeonholing others, we should try to see things from their perspective.
Not every man is full of outgoing bravado. So, instead of expecting someone full of Macho energy, you might need to start paying attention to the signs of the introverted guy who likes you.
Shy guys speak through looks
An introverted man does not have a way with words, so instead he used his eyes to express what he’s dying to tell you. If he’s into you, he’ll focus his gaze on you. If a man is not interested, he might stare at you for a bit and then get distracted by the first thing that crosses his path.
If he’s interested he’ll try to keep the conversation you started going
Though shy guys might prefer not speaking, they’ll make the effort so that he won’t miss his chance at spending time with you. But the other guy will edge you to the end of the conversation so he can make a quick exit.
When meeting your eyes he will blush
Introverted men are constant spectators. They’ll follow with their eyes the protagonists of their story but the moment she looks into his eyes, he’ll turn a bright shade of pink and try to look away. The uninterested party might hold your gaze for a bit and then turn away without the slightest care.
The shy guy mysteriously shows up everywhere.
Shy men have a lot of unspoken emotions, so their only strategy is to try to always be close to you in case they get the guts to talk to you. You’ll constantly bump into them at random moments and wonder why these “coincidences” keep happening.
Since he can’t get closer to her, he’ll try to be a part of what she likes.
Shy guys are annoyingly terrible at talking to the woman they have feelings for, so they look for ways to get closer to her. One way is through her friends, they’ll ask about her likes, dislikes, her story, etc. Eventually they’ll get the courage to approach her and be the man she’s looking for.
The shy man bears gifts
Once the shy guy has finally taken the step to be close to you, the wooing begins. In his eyes, his best bet is through thoughtful gifts he’ll have put effort into making sure you’ll like.
The shy guy will prove how he feels about you through his actions
Even though they’re with you, shy guys will still feel slightly uneasy for a while. But though they might open up so quickly, they’ll try to show you how much they care.
The shy dude will use songs to express his feelings
A man who has difficulty expressing his own heart, will seek to use the words of others to translate his feelings. But someone who doesn’t care will overlook all these romantic gestures. What’s worse, a song on the radio might make them spill all the details of the ex-girlfriend they’re still hanged-up on.
Introverted men will face their fears and meet your folks
If a shy man cares about you, they’ll make an effort regardless of how awkward they might feel, because they know it’s important to you. The guy who doesn’t care will find every excuse possible to not have to go through with it.
Shy guys are the best people to fall in love with, because they don’t use empty words.
They might be awkward and clumsy. They’ll mumble and look funny, but inside they have a sweet heart that does not require words to show its feelings. The other guy might bewitch you with his incredible speeches and puffed-up persona, but it won’t be long until he disappears without any warning, leaving you heartbroken.
So now you know. Shy guys aren’t cowards; they just have different ways of communicating. If you’re looking for a solid relationship, don’t go for the guy who’s taking up all the space, because they’re more interested in getting your attention than actually keeping it.
Translated by María Suárez