10 Signs Your Life Is Stuck In A Rut
lunes, 19 de junio de 2017 7:44|Maria Isabel Carrasco
We have so many expectations about life when we're young that, whenever something happens different from our plans, we become pessimistic and think there's no other way to reach our goals. We're taught to have a life plan, focusing all of our energy in achieving that. While it's great to have a clear aim, life is filled with surprises that no plan can predict.
Sometimes our stubbornness blinds us from other possibilities, and we'd rather give up because things didn't go as we expected. How many times have you experienced something similar? The truth is that, more than a rut, we behave like children who get frustrated whenever they can't have what they want. Our solution is always seeing the negative side of things instead of looking for options or changing our goals. The name says it all. Dead ends don't mean you have to get stuck there. You have to go back a little bit and find another path. If you feel you're in this situation, check out some of the reasons and how you can overcome them.
You’re not living the present
It sounds like a cliché, but it’s absolutely right. Sometimes our longing for the past, or our inability to overcome it, makes us focus on it, instead on the life we're actually living. We’ve forgotten how to enjoy life in this moment, and that prevents us from enjoying ourselves. It’s fine to be conscious of our past because that’s an essential part of who we are. But it’s also great to look and plan what’s ahead. If we don’t enjoy our present, we’ll never be able to really reach the future we want.
You don’t really want to try new things
That’s something that happens to everybody at some point in their lives. We’re so used to what we know that we don’t feel the need to try something else. This applies to everything, from silly things like new food, to actually meeting new people or moving to another city.
You think things just happen
How amazing would it be to get everything we desire just by asking for it? I know, that’s everyone's dream. But, since that’s not likely to happen, we have to work to achieve our goals. If you’re not getting anywhere in life, you should ask yourself what you're doing, or not doing, to fulfill your goals.
You don’t want to leave your comfort zone
This is also one of the things we hear so often that we already know when it’s coming. However, we should ask ourselves if whenever we hear this is because the one saying it actually has a point. This is probably one of our biggest fears in life. Facing something completely out of our control can be challenging, but there are three options: staying right where you are and waiting for a miracle to happen; taking the leap and fail; or making a huge and beneficial change in your life. It’s up to you.
You’ve lost interest in the things you do
Probably this is the worst thing we can experience, especially at a young age. Apathy can be our worst enemy, seriously. Once we lose interest in things, it’s very hard to find excitement again. When you reach this extreme case, the best thing to do is try new things so you'll eventually find something exciting. No matter how unimportant it might seem, these details keep a spark in your life.
You’re constantly bored
This one goes hand in hand with the previous one. Being bored is just a sign that you stopped caring about things in life. There's an infinity of things you can do to entertain yourself, even watching TV if you like it. Just don’t allow yourself to be bored that often, since this is the way to apathy.
You don’t want to change your routine
Making a routine is wonderful, but breaking it is one of the most satisfying things you can do. I’m not only talking about work routines, since these are harder to break. Try skipping on driving for a day, taking a bike or a bus instead. Small changes can fulfill your day in unexpected ways.
You only have long term goals
Goals… Why do we always have to set huge unattainable life goals? That’s the problem with most of us. We always think big, and when we can’t reach our idea aims, we get frustrated and lose the will to look for other ways to achieve them. Honestly, the best thing to do is to set short-term goals that you can fulfill in a matter of days or weeks. In that way, each achievement will push you to do the next thing.
You’re always attached to your phone
According to psychologist Adam Alter, the use of cell phones in our daily life has increased so much that it actually make us have the sensation that we no longer have free time. That’s right: we spend so much time on our phones and social media that we get stuck in that digital life. Start living the real life and use your phone only for essential things.
You’re unable of seeing the bright side of things
When we face a dead end in life, the most common thing for us is to focus on the bad side of things. Somehow not having a clear idea about our life, or failing to see a solution to this rut makes us unable to find other solutions or a way to improve our lives.
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