There are moments that make us reflect of that brief encounter or long “forever after” with the person who stands out from the rest. These small everyday things, keepsakes we guard for the future, breaking points, and emotional speed bumps give us something to think about. There is nothing more dangerous yet necessary in a relationship than to hit pause on the daily routine in order to understand why we do what we do. We ask ourselves: Why we are where we are? And why we’re with the person we’re with?
These situations that could –yet may not– happen to every couple remain in our unconscious as a life lesson or a burden to carry that, sooner or later, will have a consequence. Each small instant that churns our stomach or gives us goosebumps will end up adding or subtracting to the decision of sharing one more day, another tiny excerpt of our existence in this universe.
You’ll make plenty of mistakes in your relationship. It’s up to you to find a way to fix them.
You’ll fight: over big things, meaningless details, even about what to have for dinner.
You’ll try to argue with whatever you can during those intense intellectual debates you have with her.
You’ll hear her laugh like a madwoman as she nestles naked in your arms.
You’ll think you’re missing out on something else.
You’ll both feel like you’re growing apart when it seems there is nothing left to talk about.
You’ll want to be on your own to enjoy small pleasures and won’t know how to tell your partner without hurting them.
There will be awkward silences and quiet moments between the two of you.
You’ll know you have everything by her side.
You’ll notice a small smile that will tell you it’s her.
You’ll try to win an argument you already know you’ve lost.
The sex won’t always be great.
You’ll feel sad when she stops laughing at your bad jokes.
You’ll walk hand in hand without any other thoughts, just a smile.
You’ll ask yourselves: “Where did that passion go?”
You’ll have to live with the fact that you fight way more than you have fun.
You’ll have doubts and probably think that she’s cheating or doesn’t love you anymore. You’ll find texts or conversations that you believe prove your theory.
You’ll face your fear of heights and help her with her fear of horror movies.
You’ll listen to her for hours as she vents out.
You’ll need to find reasons to love each other during difficult moments.
You might fantasize about other people and there’s nothing wrong with that.
You’ll need to work on everyday stuff that used to flow but now feels like you’re stuck.
You’ll feel an urgency to satisfy each other’s sexual desires.
She’ll hug you out of the blue, the moment you least expect it, but perhaps when you need it the most.
You’ll think that your relationship was better at the beginning but if you’re lucky you’ll realize that it’s just evolving.
You’ll wonder what you’re doing with your life at family gatherings.
You’ll misinterpret your partner’s actions and, more than likely, will not value the little things they do.
You’ll have fun when you go shopping together and see how different you are.
She’ll fall asleep watching the movie she picked.
You’ll work to build a life together.
She’ll go with you to your Indie-Gore film festivals that you don’t even understand.
You’ll be disappointed when your surprise doesn’t make her jump for joy.
You’ll question the whole relationship, maybe due to your own self-doubts. There will be many times when you reflect on who you truly are, and therefore, what your relationship means.
You’ll get her favorite flower wrong.
You’ll have the best orgasm of your life.
You might start thinking about an ex-partner or former crush. But it’s only to compare with what you have now.
You’ll have to break the cycle of watching movies every night.
There may come a time when you find something you don’t like about that person, and it will make you rethink everything.
You’ll appreciate the day she brings you breakfast in bed.
You’ll say things to each other you never should’ve said and then have to fix it.
You’ll wake up before her just to watch her sleep.
You’ll keep secrets, some big, some you just don’t know how to bring them up.
You’ll have to listen, understand, and love.
You’ll never be everything your partner wanted you to be.
You’ll need to face the voices and the silences if you want to be with her.
You’ll prove to her that there is someone who can love her.
And you’ll understand that there’s also someone who loves you.
Bonus: You’ll sort of be able to read each other’s minds.
What else would you add to this list?
Translated by María Suárez
