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The 4 Most Common Types Of Love You Can Experience

Por: María Isabel Carrasco Cara Chards 22 de septiembre de 2017

Let me guess: your love story with your partner is unique and special.

We all love to think that our relationship is one of a kind, that no one can ever parallel our love. However, as creatures of habits and patterns, we all follow determined paths and behavior guidelines without even realizing it. Yes, perhaps the way your love story started might be kind of unique, but the way it develops and settles will fall into one of the four categories we're going to deal with.

But don't be bummed. Love is a universal emotion, so it's logical that many of us tend to follow the same psychological and behavioral patterns. It's impossible to be as unique as we'd love to be. No matter the combination of personalities you and your partner have, at the end of the day there'll be a wide percentage of couples fulfilling the same characteristics. According to Dr. Carmen Harra, these relationship types or behaviors depend a lot on the importance we give to the relationship at certain moments of our life, not really on our personality. Based on this, you could either have the same kind of relationships throughout your life or experience all of these types. So, let's get down to business.


As the name suggests, this type of relationship refers to those that are seen as a bridge leading to something else. As Harra explains, many people going through a breakup or a divorce might engage in transitory relationships to ease the process, this, of course, in the most literal way of the relationship. However, for some people going through an evolutionary process in their lives, transitory relationships help them grow personally and emotionally. Unfortunately, as Harra states, these relationships are more often temporary and only last until the person has gone through that change.


This is also kind of straightforward with the name. You know the drill, this is the belief that all the actions you perform, either good or bad, end up coming back to you at some point in your life. This is not precisely a matter of divine justice, meaning that if you did something wrong in a previous relationship, this will happen to you in the next one. More precisely, this refers to a set of attitudes and behaviors in your current relationship that will keep appearing until someone breaks the cycle, in other words, until you break up. Among the many examples, the best one is the famous on-again/off-again relationship, which is mostly based on the repetition of patterns... Karma.


This is probably one of the most common ones and, to be honest, the worst in my opinion. This is the kind of relationship that can actually last forever, but not in a positive way. In these scenarios, partners stay together out of comfort. It’s either because of an emotional or financial stability, fear, or laziness. It's not exactly love and passion what keeps them together. Most of these couples think they have something good with their partners, so they don’t want to jeopardize what they already have only to see if there’s something better out there. At the end of the day, they end up bored or just living a monotonous life without experiencing the excitement and satisfaction of being in a truthful and passionate relationship.


Last but not least, there’s one relationship that is not as negative as the previous ones, and that’s soulful love. As you might have realized from the name, this sounds like the ideal form of love. It’s being with a person you connect on more than just a physical or emotional level. As Harra explains, these are not as frequent as the previous ones, but when they do happen, they tend to last forever, since both partners have a very intense connection. Naturally, there are some situations in which you start in a relationship with this and, due to your own personal patterns, you end up transforming it into one of the previous ones. But when both are determined to work together to keep that emotion alive, this can really be one of the most beautiful experiences in your life.

Now, remember these are not unmovable categories. If you're not happy with the kind of relationship you have, you can work together to make things better. So, basically, you can use these as guidelines to see what can be improved in your relationship, instead of just settling with what you have.


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