Is Your Ex Haunting You On Social Media To Mess With Your Mind?
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Is Your Ex Haunting You On Social Media To Mess With Your Mind?

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By: Daniel Morales Olea

May 2, 2017

Lifestyle Is Your Ex Haunting You On Social Media To Mess With Your Mind?
Avatar of Daniel Morales Olea

By: Daniel Morales Olea

May 2, 2017




We've already talked about twisted dating trends like Ghosting and Benching. Unlucky for us, these are not the only ones. In case you didn't know, ghosting involves disappearing from someone else's life completely, while benching involves deceiving a person who cares about you by making them think you have to figure things out before having a relationship, so you keep pulling the strings. 

Ironically, haunting is the opposite of ghosting and benching. According to Cosmo's appropriate definition, this involves lurking in a person's social media after you've have stopped seeing or talking to them. This means keeping low but constant social media interaction only to create a notification that will force you to see the other person's name.

haunting social media dancing ghost
What the hell is the person behind this trend thinking? Why would you keep on liking the posts or photos of a person that is no longer part of your life? Well, there are two main reasons.

Sometimes, people do these things because sneaking into the mind of the other person —albeit digitally— gives them hope of getting back together. In best case scenarios, the person realizes after a reasonable amount of time that the relationship is done for good and so they stop by themselves. This usually happens when the "haunter" was dumped by the other person.

haunting social media apart
The other alternative is when the "haunter" is the one who ended the relationship but they continue to lurk in the peripheries because they're controlling by nature.  They want to be free, but they also don't want their ex to be with someone else. Also, in both cases, they may also like to annoy the person they're haunting, either for the attention it brings or due to resentment.

Of course, we've all stalked someone at some point in our lives, and we've probably been stalked too. But we've done it without being noticed. Haunting may seem like a harmless practice, but it's actually very unhealthy. The bad news is that if you are the "haunter"and you're really hung up on the person, you'll only get stuck in that phase and won't be able to move on. The case is similar for the "haunted" if they still have feelings for the person who's haunting them. It will be harder to move on. 

haunting social media stalking
The good news is that it's very simple to get rid of a haunter. You only have to keep yourself from engaging in their mind games. Although this may sound a bit too extremist, you can alway block or unfollow the other person if you really feel uncomfortable.

If you're a haunter, please stop. This won't make the person get back with you; it will only push them farther away. Also, you will only hurt yourself and waste a valuable part of your time in a meaningless undertaking, not to mention that you'll end up looking like a creep. Ouch!

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Sources:
Cosmopolitan
Bustle




Translated by Andrea Valle Gracia

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