In the age of social media, the courting process has changed to point where we might not really know that much about our romantic interest prior to going out with them. Because of this, first dates have turned into the most likely first real encounter with the person. While it might be complicated to juggle making a great impression with finding out what they're really like, there are certain red flags that we shouldn't ignore for our own sake.
If you've grown tired of going out with people who don't live up to your expectations and you're growing weary of wasting too much time going out with someone who aren't worth it, you need to improve your first date filter. This will help you avoid finding yourself in a vicious cycle of spending days and nights with the wrong people. Be cautious and stay aware of all those little details that might be indicators of who this person really is. This way you'll be able to pick up on some deal breakers early on.
1. They speak way too much about themselves
When your date constantly flaunts and brags about their achievements for hours until you're dying of boredom, odds are this is common practice. Who wants to listen to hours of narcissistic monologue? These people are looking for an audience, not for a romantic interest. Walk away!
2. They keep talking to you about their exes
When someone keeps talking about how much fun they had with their ex and the great times they spent together, you should know that they're still hung up on them. Unless you want to get hurt listening to the stories of their wonder years, save yourself some time and don't go on a second date.
3. They don't want to split things evenly
Who wants to spend time with a stingy person anyway? What's fair is fair, and no one should expect you to take care of their expenses during a first date. If they do this from the start, imagine how they'll be when they have to face even larger financial responsibilities?
4. They're disrespectful towards waiters and bartenders
Many of us are good at keeping up appearances when we're trying to give a good impression. But the way we behave in society speaks louder about personal issues. Look closely at how entitled they act while relating to the service. Would you want to keep dating douches who treat other people condescendingly just because they work in service? You'd be crazy to do so.
5. They make racist comments and they even try to justify them
Racism is never funny and it's something that we should always fight against. If your date slips up a racist joke and afterwards tries to justify it by saying it was only for humor's sake, you should confront them and just walk away.
6. They brag about their lifestyle
While first dates are all about making an impression, they shouldn't be taken as a chance to boast our wealth and to make ourselves look as if we were rockstars. I'm pretty sure only players like to do this, because in this way they try to make themselves an object of desire by setting themselves apart from you. If there's plenty of bragging, there's probably not much substance behind the flashiness.
7. They make assumptions on your life based on your zodiac sign
Whether you believe in the zodiac or not, you shouldn't stick with someone who is making judgements before enjoying a conversation with you. We're all different in our own kind of way, and it's difficult for someone to understand a person if we're making assumptions. How can we date somebody who doesn't really give us a chance to show them who we are? Ditch them, unless you're willing to pretend you're someone you're not.
8. They keep getting phone calls from their mother
If the person you're dating is constantly picking up their phone to talk to their mother or just ignoring their calls, you should know there's something fishy going on. Whether it's an oedipus complex or plain dependency, you don't want to get into a relationship with someone who can't separate their family life from their own personal situations.
9. They don't mind their manners at the table
If your date talks while having a mouth full of food, with the sauce splattering all over their clothing, and staining their shirt with red wine, you don't even want to know how their rooms look and smell. Unless you're looking for a relationship that stenches so much that you'll end up repulsing all of your friends, get out ASAP.
10. They clearly have a fake personality
Look, it's common to try to pretend we're someone we're not during a first date. But there's a limit to how fake we can be when we're hanging out with someone we just met. If your date keeps faking an accent, talking about subjects they don't know a single thing about, and pretend they have the most refined taste in town, you should know that you're not talking to a real person and eventually they'll rear their ugly head. If you're not willing to have the nastiest scare of your life, say next!
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