At some point any one of us has felt undeserving or unworthy. We feel like we haven’t worked enough to achieve a particular accolade or that we are not as good as everyone else thinks. There are even some instances when we believe that we are hacking our way through the system and that it’s only a matter of time before someone realizes we should not be where we are.
Several celebrities have spoken out on how they themselves feel this way, even at the height of success. While this disorder is clearly linked to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, there are several other factors that play a role in its development. Those who suffer from this phenomenon reach a point where they even see a celebrated achievement of theirs as a fluke.
This kind of distorted view of the world does not appear overnight. It is a series of several situations that slowly begin to weave the constant feeling of being an impostor or fraud. However, even those last two concepts are social constructs. The person who is undergoing this form of depression should realize that there is no one way to find success. They should learn to love themselves and discover what success means to them rather than to the rest of the world.
Spanish psychologists, Cristina Callao, suggests a few tips:
Do a self assessment. Compare the opinion you have of yourself with what others think of you. This isn’t an ego stroke but more of a way to see what you might be missing.
Compete and take risks. Never assume something’s lost or gone before trying it out. Broaden your horizons and dare to try new things.
Share your fears with others. When you do that your insecurities immediately loose their strength. Besides, how can someone help you out if you don’t ask for assistance?
Be thankful of praise and don’t despair others from congratulating you. Don’t disregard a comment simply because it’s positive. Analyze it and use it to you favor. Know that you are worthy.
Be proud of the life you’ve made for yourself. Regardless of how much recognition you receive, the only person who can tell you your own worth is you. Think of yourself as a work in progress. There might be some bumps along the way, but don’t allow yourself to get stuck. Keep training yourself to be able to accepts as well as provide compliments. One thing to keep in mind is that we’ve all had moments of self-doubt. What matters is what you do to get yourself out of there.
Translated by María Suárez