Read this if you're looking for advice to create new opportunities for quality time with your partner.
If you're in need of ideas to spend quality time, then it's safe to assume you've been in this relationship for some time. Never mind how long exactly, so let's just say enough time for you to need some advice. Perhaps you would like to rekindle your long time relationship, perhaps you feel like you lost the spark somewhere along the way, or maybe what got in the way was life itself: work, family, health, children. And thing's are either not what they used to be, or you find it harder to have time as a couple. Well, say no more. This quick guide is a good place to start. It's not a guide for ideas for dates precisely, that one deserves a whole other read, but a list of ideas for a better quality time with your partner.
See the signs that you need quality time.
First of all, recognize that you need quality time. Acknowledge it and embrace it. For some, this could be a step to rekindle your relationship, others may want to avoid mistakes from past experiences. Make quality time a priority.
Recreate your first date together.
It doesn’t matter whether you spent your first date getting tacos from a food truck, or you went to the movies, or you had dinner at the fanciest spot in town, reenacting your first date is a good way to show your SO you still remember the first time you got to know each other. Make it as detailed and fun as possible. Maybe you still have that shirt you wore, somewhere. Maybe your hair was different, and even though it would look ridiculous now, wear it like that. Going back in time to what started it all, before life got in your way, it’ll be a good way to commemorate your relationship.
Have a would-be first date (If you didn’t actually have one).
Relationships don't necessarily have to start with a first date. Perhaps you never got the chance to have one. So if this happened to you, pretend you're seeing each other for the very first time. Agree to meet somewhere new and different, or do something you wish you had done in the first place.
Have a fancy night in.
You don't necessarily have to go out. So why not have a night in? This can involve cooking for two, which is always incredibly romantic. Since this is a special occasion, you could really do just about anything you want, but make sure you do something, don't just hang out. Stream a movie, play a board game, cook a meal, dress up. No really, put on a that fancy suit and dress you never really get a chance to wear. It'll be fun.
Hit the gym together.
Exercising is awesome, but if you start doing it as a couple it'll be even better. You'll both get healthier, more physically fit, and, since you'll be supporting each other, it'll be unlikely that either of you bail on workouts. You'll bond over how tiring this is. Plus, exercise has been proven to have a positive effect on your sex life.
Take an impromptu vacation/date.
Just do it. Think about it. You'll be driving home one night, not feeling like keeping up with the same old routine. So just say it: "Let's go the beach!" Erase any doubt in your mind and just bail on everything so you both go to the beach.
Have a movie night.
I don't just mean watch the latest films. I mean, watch all of the films you said you'd watch but never got around to do it: classics, cult films, black and white. Whatever. Do this as apart of a routine and maybe you'll discover something in yourselves you didn't know you had.
Try a new sport.
Not quite like hitting the gym, but kind of. Rather than hanging out with a bunch of treadmills, trying a new sport like Tennis or Golf, or maybe touch football will make you bond as a team. And also, it's always fun.
Take a vacation or weekend getaway.
Everyone needs a getaway at one point or another. Doing it as a couple will allow you to disconnect from everything and everyone at one point or another for a predetermined period of time: a week, two weeks, a month, a year? And you don't have to go to Paris every time, well... maybe every other time.
Start a one on one book club if you will, but even if you don't, reading the same things will spark up conversations. My own personal tip is that you try to get into poetry together. Everybody likes good poetry.
Play to your talents.
What are your hobbies and your talents? Photography? Then teach your partner how to take better pictures. Maybe it's languages. Who doesn't want to speak Spanish or French?
Wake up early for breakfast.
Ok, so you work until late hours at night. Try to fit in some quality time before your day really really starts. Breakfast is delicious, so try to enjoy it together before all the frenzy swallows you whole.
Learn to dance
Dancing is just about the best thing you can do as a couple. It's so intimate, so fun that it's almost a no brainer. Ask your partner to teach you or, if it's the case, to learn together. There won't be another wedding where both of you don't command the dance floor. And it's a great activity since you can do this at clubs, bars, family events or at your own home. Great!
Follow these tips and you'll be sure to focus completely on your QT, my friends. Good luck!
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