Have you ever pretended to like someone for several months, and suddenly, when you least expect it, this feeling becomes real, and you cannot distinguish between the past falsehood and your present state of mind? If our mind was an old fashioned carriage, then the emotions would be the horses driving us forward. Our feelings are the catalysts behind our every thought and action; sometimes we can perfectly describe each and every sentiment; other times, they simmer in our unconscious mind. Anger, disgust, love, loss, sadness, excitement, joy, among many other feelings, are the true puppeteers, and we, the poor marionettes, pulled towards one direction or the other.
We've all been there, we've all had to pretend to like someone and talk to a group of people we utterly dislike. As social beings, we have learned how to disguise our disinterest or apathy. With a straight face you can lie, and that is the ultimate survival skill. This acting capacity can be so superb you can cheat your mind and believe it is true. In simple terms, you fake it 'til you make it.
This has finally been confirmed by a research conducted by the Psychology Department at Hertfordshire University in the UK. Professor Wiseman, who was leading the investigation, concluded that if some behaviors are regularly carried out, then it can engender these feelings, especially those related to love, physical attraction, and desire for another person.
This is incredibly useful during the first few dates, when the distance between the two is shortened as you discover the other's dislikes, likes, and ways of thinking. The process of falling in love does requires a bit of playacting, and it is essential if you wish the relationship to move forward.
To explore the veracity of his theory's "Positive Action," Prof. Wiseman asked 100 participants in the study to hold hands, "gaze into each other's eyes and whisper secrets to each other," as he explained in the Daily Telegraph. Afterwards, it was noted that the people who faked attraction –specifically 45% of the participants– were more likely to want to see the other again, compared to the average rate.
The conclusion of this surprising study is quite controversial since it shows that love does not appear out of the blue, but it is an emotion that is forced, almost willed, into existence. Love is not born from a kiss, a look, or a sexual encounter, but by the force of your feelings that may or may not be faked. Your behavior and actions can influence your emotions in ways we are yet to fully grasp. Our minds set up traps from which we are unable to escape, no matter how much logic you may apply to them. Acting as if you are hopelessly in love with someone may truly lead to the real thing.
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