From the moment Jim Morrison saw Pamela Courson on a California beach in 1965, back when the future frontman of The Doors was a film student, he knew she’d be the love of his life. After that brief encounter, both were smitten. She stood by Jim’s side for the rest of his life, until his untimely death in 1971.
The heart does not lie when it tells us we're standing in front of the person we'll love for the rest of our days…
Regardless of how hard we try, chemistry cannot be created or controlled. If two people are meant to live a moment of romance, there are several elements that can affect how long or short that period may be. But what happens when you’re not quite sure if the other person feels the same way as you do? How do you know if they’re willing to see you again? Here are a couple signs that will let you know if they haven't been bitten by the love bug.
Uninterested in conversation
Long awkward pauses are never a good sign on a first date. This could be chemistry or lack of things in common. Take note of his posture, gaze, and energy, since all those can tell you if he’s bored of talking with you.
Not planning a second date
If he doesn’t ask you on a second date, or at least mentions it as a possibility, it’s possible that he’s not planning another encounter. If someone is interested they’ll take any opportunity to make sure they’ll see you again.
Days of radio silence
If it’s been a week and they haven’t called or texted, you don’t need to wait another seven days to know they’re not calling.
Doesn’t answer your texts
Avoids talking about a second date
If you ask them out for another chance, make sure you notice his response. If he tends to avoid answering, or just says he’ll get back to you, take it a sign of his disregard.
He avoids you in a public place
If by chance you bump into each other at a bar or party and acts like they’ve never met you, then they’re not even worth your time.
If one day they stop showing up on your feed or just seem to disappear from social media, that could be their way of saying they don’t want to meet again.
Don’t get discouraged if you didn’t get to that second date. It’s not necessarily a reflection on you, or even on the other person. Sometimes things don’t work out. Instead of wondering what happened, focus on the future. You don’t want to miss out on a great person because you’re hung up on someone who’s gone.
Translated by María Suárez