Things You Do On Facebook After A Breakup That Make You Feel Worse
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Things You Do On Facebook After A Breakup That Make You Feel Worse

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By: Gustavo Lopez

February 16, 2017

Lifestyle Things You Do On Facebook After A Breakup That Make You Feel Worse
Avatar of Gustavo Lopez

By: Gustavo Lopez

February 16, 2017

Goodbyes are difficult, sometimes impossible, and always painful.

Now that you have ended your relationship face to face or through a phone call, a text, Whatsapp audio, or Facebook message, the latter social network can become one of the most important reflections of your decision to become single. Sooner or later, there will be evidence of the breakup on your wall or your ex's, or both, and perhaps it'll be shown together with its causes.

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The first weeks are the most complicated, not only because the breakup affects your routine –and with it, you welcome lonely nights and canceled plans–, but also because your private relationship was a public association involving friends in common and of your own. Now both will have to forget about it all, and that will not be a simple process.

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These are the things that many people do on Facebook after ending a relationship, which some would say makes them look desperate and pathetic. All of the following points are just part of the mourning process, if you have done any of these, there's nothing wrong. If  blocking your ex or deleting their pictures helps you move on, then go right ahead...but if the following points only make you feel more miserable then it's time you thought of a new "moving on" strategy. 

You stop following your ex to not see their posts, and delete photos of the two of you.


You begin to “like” the photos of your exes.

You publicly comment on the photos of your crushes.

You post videos about dogs so everyone remembers how sincerely tender you are.

You begin to write on the walls of your crushes, as if there would be some contact between you.

You disappear from Facebook for a week and then return saying that you had gone on vacation to an internet-less paradise, and that’s why you haven’t been posting.

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You confirm that you will attend all the event invitations you receive.

You write spiteful posts or motivational statements for singles.

You upload periodical photos of your new exercise routine and of course show off the results.

You share articles about toxic relationships.

You make sure that your Spotify profile shows only party songs.

You maliciously like photos of your attractive friends with your ex.

You shout out to the friend of your ex that always seemed a little more attractive.

You check-in to all the places your ex never wanted to go with you.

You change your profile photo for one where you consider yourself a little less disheveled.

You write ambiguous status updates that make you seem busier, more interesting and happier than you are in reality.

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You upload photos of yourself in a party pretending to act crazy.

You finally “like” the posts of your relatives, giving the false impression that you’re mature.

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You write things like, “I missed being single” every weekend.

You change your profile photo to something vague and enigmatic.

You ask your friends to surround you and throw their arms around your shoulder for a selfie op to upload.

You share content just because you know your ex is interested in it.

You open a false account so you can write to yourself, “How handsome!” or “You’re so beautiful.”


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Perhaps the last one is an exaggeration...or perhaps all of them? But the point to all of this is that social media can easily help you create an alternative reality and distance yourself from your actual feelings. When a relationship ends you are entitled to go through a mourning process and go through each stage. It's best to take the time you need and remember that the most important parts of a relationship do not occur online, but in the emotional bond between two people. 

Relationships occur in real life, not in the digital one, so don't get carried away on social media. Make your new life with wise decisions both off and online.

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Translated by Joseph Reiter



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