How To Love And Take Care Of The (Imperfect) Skin You're In
January 24, 2018María Isabel Carrasco Cara Chards
You don't have to spend tons of money, time, effort, and emotions concealing those imperfections on your skin. The only way to really glow is by embracing who we are, skin included.
We all have issues with our skin. No one, absolutely no one, has a perfect skin, even if they claim they do. That’s important to mention, because just like me, most likely many of you have felt insecure when seeing an image on social media or while watching TV and thinking you’ll never have the flawless skin of models or actors. When we’re in our teens our skin is at its worst, filled with pimples, blemishes, and scars, all because of adolescent acne. Well, that was not the case for me. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to sound cocky, but I actually had so many other things to lower my self-esteem at the time, and I never experienced terrible cases of acne, other than an occasional pimple that appeared at the least convenient time. However, as I said, that didn’t mean I had the perfect skin we all desire. On the contrary, I’ve always had serious problems of pigmentation, dryness, and facial hair that made me feel so bad about myself that I tried basically everything to look like the girls I saw on TV or magazines.
My acne free luck didn’t last long, and for the past two years, it’s become a serious pain in the ass. I resorted to makeup to conceal them, and even though I was wearing all sorts of creams and topic treatments to make my skin look flawless, none of them really worked. I watched tons of tutorials to learn how to achieve that look with makeup. I even bought the same products they used, with no success. I got proficient in covering everything with makeup, but I felt that was a mask I'd wear forever, since it would be weird to have a flawless skin one day and the other be full of pimples and scars. Moreover, I felt so bad when I saw my friends bare faced while I was wearing tons of makeup. So, just two months after I started wearing that mask of makeup, I decided to give up and embrace my skin just as it is.
Learning how to love your imperfect skin isn’t easy. How can we love something we’re constantly told is a flaw? For me, it was realizing that I am more than my skin. Yes, it’s my cover letter, but I still have friends who love me, not precisely for my skin, so I started focusing on all those things that made me feel special, either physically or intellectually. Once you realize how much you have missed worrying about something as superficial as the skin, you’ll start appreciating other things in your life. This is not something that happens from one day to the other. It’s actually a long and complex journey that might be painful and might have some relapses, but eventually, you’ll feel freer and happier. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to actually neglect your look or the health of your skin.
I’ve seen many articles with this beautiful message of self-love saying how not to care for your skin. Although I agree a hundred percent with the first part, personally, I learned that taking care of myself can help a lot in the process. Now, it’s not a matter of trying anything out there to achieve the perfect skin, but to actually find the core of the situation. Our body is a perfect mechanism that reacts to how we take care of it. So, I understood that the best thing to do was understanding the cause of those “flaws” in my skin. Not to be a party pooper, but in this case it's essential to visit a dermatologist to find the cause of the issue. I realized that what had caused basically everything I hated (except my facial hair, that’s a hundred percent genetic, and there’s nothing I can do, but having a hair removal procedure) was my own neglect, habits, and the random treatments I tried throughout the years.
Besides the fact that I didn’t wash my skin before going to bed and didn't remove my makeup (not to mention the many creams and topic treatments I tried), one of the main causes of the deterioration of my skin was my own diet. I didn’t want to believe this, but the things we eat can have a huge impact on our skin cells, and not consuming the right amount of antioxidants and vitamins was making my skin look dry and dull. The doctor told me that we’re so focused on tips like not eating chocolate to avoid acne and stuff like that, which only prevents us from really having a healthy diet with an actual impact on our skin. So, yes, the grease of the chocolate can enhance the presence of pimples, but it’s not like stop eating it will make them magically disappear or stop appearing at all. It’s a combination of giving the body the nutrients it needs and having clean habits, which takes us to the last point.
We all should have a skin routine, even if you consider your face to be flawless. The thing is that we live in a filthy world. It’s not only the nasty air we’re in contact with all day, but the germs and waste that goes into our hands or our phones, which we put on our face all day. If you don't clean your skin, then it becomes a disgusting breeding ground that evolves into blemishes, zits, blackheads, and so on. It’s not a matter of vanity, it’s more a hygiene habit we should all embrace on a daily basis.
I can tell you that once I started following these tips, my skin started to look better. As I said at the beginning, it’ll never look as flawless as we’re told to believe through social media and Instagram. Just take a look at beauty influencers and how their skin looks at the beginning of their videos, some have healthy and radiant skins, but never as perfect as they look once they finish applying all those layers of makeup. So, just start understanding that all our faces are beautifully imperfect in their own ways, and as soon as you take good care of it, it’ll naturally glow.
Oh, by the way, the images you’ve seen throughout the article belong to Peter Devito’s series project, where he deals with normal skins and that pressure to always look flawless, even if you have to make use of software like Photoshop to make people believe you are. You can see more of his work on his Instagram account: @peterdevito
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