The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
Audrey Hepburn
What does it mean to be mature? Many pale at the word believing it is synonymous to old age and a body that begins to sag and where the joints begin to creak. The lines or grooves etched on a face don’t open the doors to maturity, where spiritual peace and strength can be found. Maturity is a combination of the mind and body. What makes a woman mature?
We see women living life to the fullest, but in those moments of euphoria, true happiness escapes their grasp because they still don’t know themselves. Each person is tasked with strengthening their character to reach the mature stage.
The following 22 points may seem obvious to some women, but for others, they may appear almost impossible to achieve:
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Parental expectations
You career choice, professional trajectory, and sexual preferences are no longer an imperative. You have grown up and all your energy is now being poured into your dreams and not on the expectations of others.
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Fashion Trends
Designers and magazines assure us of the fashion trends, trying to convince us that their new proposition will suit your body to perfection. As you walk down high street, you scoff at some of the outfits, thinking, “how on earth is this trendy?” You know what looks good on you and while you are unafraid to take risks, you invest in clothes that makes you happy and comfortable.
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Your ex
The itch to pick up the phone and call that person who hurt you has eased completely. You understand things come to an end for a reason and all that is left is to confront reality with strength.
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Being shy in bed
The shaking limbs, the dark room, and the hesitant kisses are a thing of the past, for you, intimacy is the perfect time to be yourself and be confident in who you are. When having sex the most important thing is to have fun and find the ultimate pleasure.
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Other People’s opinions
You no longer conform to the mold people have tried to shove you in and failed. The comments, “you’re too easy,” “you’re too difficult,” “you should be more ladylike” or “be more demure” fly out the window and no longer have the power to hurt you. You have your own essence and you know how to enjoy life and with whom to share it with.
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Not saying what you really think
Many women are compelled to silence and they bottle up all the unsaid thoughts and ideas. They feel unheard and with unrealized dreams. A mature woman has no fear in voicing their opinion without being rude or offending anyone.
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Toxic people
That friend who would flirt with your boyfriends, always had something to complain about or she would be in a downward spiral of depression has left your life. You have been released from the toxic friendships that would leach you of energy and leave you with a constant headache. As you are surrounded by your closest friends you have a flash of insight, “I have never felt so happy before.”
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Believing mistakes equal failure
At this stage you understand that mistakes are part of learning and there is nothing wrong in falling, picking yourself up and trying again.
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The perfect size
Size 0, XS size, C cup….sometimes you can’t have those things and you are fine with that. Your body is what it is and you feel confident in your own skin.
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Prudence
Have you realized that dancing and making a fool of yourself are not so important anymore? All you care about is enjoying life and making something good out of it. Prejudice, insecurities, pride, and judgment of other peoble have been left to one side because you know they won’t enrich your life.
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Regretting the past
The what if’s and the maybes are no longer burdens you carry on your back as you go about life. You have let go of all the possibilities because you know that looking at the past will only hold you back from achieving all the dreams and plans you have for the future.
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Twenties are for learning, thirties are for earning…so they say, but, it’s not true
There is no space for unfulfilling jobs, what matters now is doing what you love and trying your best in achieving those goals.
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Partying to hook up
Devastated, tired, with no energy to go out and you still would because your self-esteem was so low that you thought no drunk man could resist your charm.
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The fear in making sexual fantasies a reality
You realized they are not perversions or sexual deviations, they are simply your deepest desires that you share with your partner.
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Fighting with your parents
They are people first and deserve all the respect and appreciation you can give. There is no space for hate or bad vibes because they did what was necessary to raise you and it is far more important to let go of the little mistakes they made along the way. You understand that it is not worth it ruining a relationship because of small whims.
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Wanting what other women have
Not the boyfriend, body, or job. There is no motive big enough for you to feel envious or jealous because what you have is yours and it is for the best.
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Begging for love
“No” is no and you know it. You don’t need to be rejected twice and you are conscious that it brings no good to chase someone who has rejected your company multiple times.
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Pleasing everyone and not yourself
You are capable of making decisions for yourself without caring so much for other people’s opinions. You worry for those closest to you but you have no qualm celebrating your successes and getting what you want.
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Keeping friends you have nothing in common
Yes, maybe at one point you were excellent friends and the chemistry between you was envied by all. However, things change and both of you have taken different courses in life. There is nothing wrong with that, just keep the precious memories close, let them go and move forward.
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Bitterness is unnecessary and learn to forgive
The long faces, the rolling eyes and the vengeful spirit have been exorcised from your life. The idea that you can exchange pain for hatred is wrong and you come to grips with the fact that it is only through love and respect that true healing can begin.
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Getting wrecked when partying
A good night out is not about buying everyone a drink and getting completely wrecked, it is about knowing the things that you enjoy. A good party is more than a night of alcohol and casual sex.
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Throwing a tantrum
You cannot throw a tantrum and expect to get what you want. It is not possible being angry all the time and expect people to bow down to your desires and listen to you.
