So, you thought it was finally over. You’d finally moved on from that horrible ghosting experience or relationship. You might have even started seeing someone new. Then one night, your phone lights up at 4:00 am and wakes you up. At first, you ignore it. But your curiosity gets the best of you and you can’t help but look at your screen. And there it is, so horrifying you can’t even breathe. What does this mean? Why is this happening? The one who ghosted you has just liked a picture you posted. Or worse, they’re sending you a “Hey” after months of radio silence. Well, I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but you’ve just been zombied.
As if we needed more reasons to hate on technology’s influence in human relationships, there’s a new trend that is as cruel and selfish as ghosting, benching, haunting, and breadcrumbing, but also extremely creepy. Zombieing is what happens when the person who played a disappearing act on you after one or two dates, said they’d call you the next day to hang out and never did, or full-on broke up with you, starts liking your posts on any of your social media accounts. It’s as if they’re reminding you that they're still interested. But really, it’s their way of keeping dibs on you in a way, while not actually being honest on their feelings. A zombie can come back from a dead would-be relationship looking for a casual hookup or to continue having a hold on you. Knowing that they have this power over you feeds their ego.
So how do you protect yourself from this kind of zombie attack? Well, first off, I’d suggest blocking or unfollowing them the moment you know they’re not coming back. If they said they’d text you later, but then a week went by without hearing from them, just erase them from your life. You don’t need or want them to be able to keep you on the shelf. Also, I don’t know if this is already obvious, but nothing good ever comes from a zombie. They weren’t interested then, and they're not interested now. If they really were, they’d actually reach out to you. They’d call you or send some sort of smoke signals, or something. By giving you a like or a comment, they’re simply asserting that you are their territory and that they have you on stand-by for whenever they’re bored or they don't have anyone else. Whatever your connection was, now it's just a rotten piece of the past that has no place in your life.
Don’t waste your energy fighting off zombies who just want to devour your time. Trust me, nothing good will ever come from indulging. If you follow their lead, start talking again, you’re likely to find yourself in the same situation as before. They’ll give you some hope but never actually specify when you’ll get together. Then, once you’re hooked again, they’ll play the same vanishing trick they did in the past. This ruse is only intended as an ego boost when they’re in between victims, I mean, partners.
As I said, the best shield is to delete them from your life, both real and virtual, from the moment you know they’re just making up excuses or just leaving your messages as read. Nobody has time for these games. Let them go and find a living heart that actually values you as a person, rather than a fan.