It started the way these things often do now: online. A match. A message. A date. One night, maybe a little awkward, maybe forgettable—except it wasn’t. It was the beginning of something much darker: the story of the 65,000 texts stalker, a woman whose obsession spiraled from flirty texts to break-ins, threats, and a bathtub.
For 31-year-old Jacqueline Ades, that date in January 2017 was the beginning of something cosmic. She called him her “healing angel.” She said it was fate. He called the police.
What followed reads like a psychological thriller rewritten by someone mid-breakdown: more than 65,000 text messages—some days over 500. A trespassing charge. A butcher knife. And finally, a scene that sounds like urban legend: Ades breaking into his Arizona home and taking a bath while he watched the whole thing from another country on his security cameras.
This is not your average stalker story. It’s a hyper-modern cautionary tale about parasocial obsession, digital delusion, and what happens when fantasy becomes terrifyingly real.
Inside the Mind of a Stalker: “Don’t Ever Try to Leave Me… I’ll Kill You”
Ades reportedly began texting the man shortly after he blocked her on the app. From there, the flood began. Court documents say she sent tens of thousands of messages over the course of 17 months—some sweet, some threatening, some completely unhinged.
Among them:
“I’ll kill you… I don’t wanna be a murderer.”
“Oh what would I do w ur blood! I’d wanna bathe in it.”
“U do whatever u have to do to get here… but don’t ever try to leave me…”
The man contacted authorities multiple times, reporting Ades showing up at his home and his business, where she once claimed to be his wife. Police responded again and again. Still, the messages continued.
And then, one day in April 2018, while he was traveling internationally, he got a notification: someone was inside his house.
He opened his security feed. There was Jacqueline Ades—in his bathroom. In the tub.
When police arrived, she was still there. In her car outside, they found a butcher knife in the front seat.
She was arrested and charged with felony trespassing. But it didn’t end there.
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“He’s the Light, I’m the Love”
After being released, Ades allegedly resumed texting. The messages grew darker. More violent. More obsessive. When she failed to appear in court, a warrant was issued for her arrest.
She was eventually taken into custody on May 8, 2018, after showing up again—this time at his Scottsdale business, telling staff and officers that she was married to the owner.
In interviews from jail, Ades seemed both calm and convinced.
“Love is an excessive thing,” she told reporters. “He’s the light, I’m the love.”
She claimed she never intended to hurt the man. That he put a GPS on her car. That he was still sending her messages. She said she was simply following “the number 33” and the equation of love.
“There’s no need to fear me,” she insisted. “It’s not like I would ever try to kill him.”
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Obsession, Romanticized
In pop culture, stalking by women often gets played for laughs—overly attached girlfriend memes, “crazy ex” tropes, rom-com-level delusion. But in real life, it’s not quirky. It’s not cute. It’s dangerous.
Jacqueline Ades is currently facing felony charges for stalking, threatening and intimidating, plus a misdemeanor count of harassment. She has no listed attorney. Jail officials won’t confirm whether she’s receiving psychological treatment.
As for the man she met on that dating app? His name still hasn’t been released. He’s stayed silent. And who could blame him?
One date. 65,000 texts. A woman in his tub. A knife in the car.
Some people ghost. Some people don’t take the hint.
And some people take a bath.
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