Each of us has suffered from terrible disappointment in love. It’s what we do after that determines our character:
One day, someone will break your heart so badly, you’ll feel as if it’s stopped beating. You’ll cry from morning until well into the night. You’ll feel empty and will probably lose track of time. You’ll feel as if everything is worthless because none on it will heal your pain. You’ll feel it in your bones. Your eyes will burn as you drift into sleep. Food will be tasteless. Laughter will be useless. You’ll forget about all that made you smile.
But even then, as you struggle with the burden of your pain, you will still wish the one who hurt you was there next to you. We prefer to suffer little by little, without ever healing. But if we choose to take on all the heartbreak at once we might be able to move on. We desperately avoid sadness, searching for excuses to justify the actions of the one who got us in this mess. We rather play at pretending to be loved, blaming ourselves instead of the guilty party.
We stay where we are, forgiving and perpetuating the cycle instead of moving on. We like to remain in this dead-end instead of facing the uncertainty of what could happen. We’ve missed out on so much joy for fear of the unknown.
The magic of life lies in this unexpected future, an adventure that will only be experienced in the moment. But if we hold onto an idealized past, we will never reach that instant of surprise. We’re terrified of what we have yet to see. We’re afraid of life.
Forgive so you can live!
Don’t be afraid to venture in the unknown. You might fail. You might get hurt. But you might love and share moments of happiness.
What would life be like if we could not feel pain? How would we know the meaning of love if we’d never experienced heartbreak? Be grateful to those who have broken your heart. Don’t underestimate the pain they’ve caused. That hurt will make you wiser and stronger, and will bring you a step closer to the one who will know your worth. No pain is forever or in vain. Search for the positive as you move forward. You’ll realize that life is made out of these moments.
We all want a love that will appreciate us for our flaws and virtues. But what happens when we need a little space to be able to feel everything as if it were the first time?
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Translated by María Suárez