Is monogamy in danger? The last word on this has not been said, but the truth is that it is increasingly popular, or at least publicly in some sectors of society, but when we talk about the world of celebrities the topic is usually a bit complex.
Although celebrities are characterized by a space free of prejudices, the truth is that it is also full of stigmas related to topics considered taboo. One of those topics is open relationships, which although it seems like something new, is not. In fact, in the golden age of cinema and television, there are countless records of infidelity between celebrities such as Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher; and Frank Sinatra with Nancy Barbato, among others.
Open relationships represent an opportunity for couples; However, these do not escape controversy about the circumstances that surround them, such as infidelities, pressure from one of the parties, and the last option to save the relationship. These are couples of celebrities who publicly maintain an open relationship:
Dolly Parton and Carl Dean
“If we cheat, we don’t know, so if we cheat, it’s very good for both of us. I don’t want to know if he’s cheating on me. If I’m cheating on him, he wouldn’t know it. “I don’t want to know. And if we do it, if that’s what makes it work, then that’s fine too.”
These were the words of country singer Dolly Parton about the open relationship she maintains with her husband, whom she married more than 50 years ago and with whom she has maintained a relationship of this type ever since.
Whoopi Goldberg
In her 2011 book, If Someone Says ‘You Complete Me,’ RUN, the actress talked about her views on open relationships: ‘Sometimes in a relationship, people can’t always get what they need, and If you have reputable people you can turn to to get what you need, I say go for it. It’s much better than being frustrated and angry with the person you love.”
Cameron Diaz
Although she is currently away from the big screen, Cameron Diz has always been an inexhaustible source of news. And since she couldn’t be otherwise, she also talked about open relationships: “I don’t know if anyone is monogamous by nature. We all have the same instincts as animals. But we live in a society in which we have been taught to do these things. Since 2015, the actress has been married to music producer Benji Madden.
Hugh Grant and Anna Eberstein
Although on the big screen he played romantic heartthrobs, in real life, Hugh Grant is a little different, because he is a supporter of open or polyamorous relationships.
“If you ask me, ‘Do you think human beings are prepared to maintain faithful, monogamous relationships for 40 years?’, I say no, no, and no,” he said in 2016.
“Who said that human beings are monogamous? Just the Bible or something like that,” he explained. The actor has had several relationships, the most recent is with Anna Eberstein, whom he married in 2018.
Taika Waititi and Rita Ora
Months after confirming their relationship, the couple was photographed exchanging kisses with actress Tessa Thompson. Although the director and the singer have not made this type of relationship public, the three of them were seen to be very affectionate. When asked, the filmmaker asked: Is it that big of a deal?
Lizzo
“I think a traditional relationship has scared me for 10 years, but love is forever. I can love someone forever.”“Monogamy, for me, is a little claustrophobic because there are rules. I believe that a loving relationship that is not monogamous has no rules. I think people who do poly and all that still have rules,” said the singer when asked about her relationship with Myke Wright.
Tilda Swinton and John Byrne
Celebrities, Tilda Swinton and the German painter Sandro Kopp have been married since 2004. In 2008, she revealed that Kopp was living at his home in Highland, Scotland, with Byrne, who had begun a relationship with Jeanine Davis.
“We are all a family. What you should also know is that we are all very happy,” said the actress when asked about the rumors of her open relationship.
“My children’s father and I are good friends and now I have a very happy relationship. And we are all very good friends. It is a very happy situation. Life doesn’t have to be like this. Be complicated. You just have to have compassion for yourself and stop blaming yourself when things get complicated,” she said.
RuPaul and Georges LeBar
Drag icon RuPaul married her longtime boyfriend Georges LeBar in 2017, more than 20 years after they met. In an interview for Vanity Fair, he explained that he had an open marriage, although at first, he had not decided.
“I wouldn’t want to put restrictions on the person I love most on this planet. “I wouldn’t do that to someone I love, my best friend,” she said.
Ethan Hawke and Ryan Shawhughes
Ethan Hawke and Ryan Shawhughes married in 2018, after the actor divorced Uma Thurman, she was then the nanny of his children. The act denied rumors of infidelity to Thurman.
In an interview, Hawke said: “Sexual fidelity cannot be the only thing on which the relationship is based. People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity. ‘He cheated on him and that’s why he’s bad, she cheated on her and that’s why she’s bad.’ ‘ as opposed to the recognition that our species is not monogamous.
“Acting indignant because your world has been shaken because your lover was not faithful to you is a little like acting shaken because your hair turned gray.”
This story was written in Spanish by Daniel Matute in Cultura Colectiva.
