It’s common knowledge that after a breakup it’s advisable to make some changes in your life; throw away all those things, both mental and material, that hurt you and remind you of that person you just want to forget, and start over. Sometimes while doing this we only focus on specific things that are directly linked to that person instead of making deep changes in our life to really move on and break with all those links to the past.
You can create quirky shelves like this using reclaimed wood.
One of the things we tend to forget and leave the same is our bedroom. It’s not that you have to sanitize your whole place in order to get rid of the germs of heartbreak and sorrow, but it’s always good to focus on new things and projects to ease your mind and move on with your life. So, that’s what we’re going to talk about today, about how redecorating your room can be a great therapy after a breakup.
Fairy lights may be cliché but it's all about the type of lightbulb you pick and where you place them that makes a difference.
So, the first thing you must do after a breakup, no matter what, is to stay busy. You know what grandmas say, “idleness is the root of all evil,” and they’re absolutely right. I mean, what good can come from staying in bed all day wallowing in self-pity? So, get up and start planning on how you want to redecorate your room. You don’t even need to spend tons of money; the challenge of making changes with a tight budget will also help you focus on that instead on how devastated you are.
The walls are your canvas and you can decorate them with mementos or souvenirs from your travels or hobbies. Just make sure they suit one type of palette or style.
Once you’ve planned how you're going to design this area, get rid of any reminder that makes you feel bad. This is the movie cliché part of the therapy; you can even play a positive song while doing so and laugh at how ridiculous this might look. The trick here is keeping out of your mind those memories that will only make you cling to the past and to that failed relationship. If there are things you really treasure, you can store them in boxes, and once you’ve healed, you can see what to do with them, but in the meantime just take store them away. If they’re not that important for you and they have some value, you can always try selling them; I mean, some extra money won’t hurt anyone, and you can actually use that to get some stuff for your decorating project.
A new bedspread can make all the difference. Splurge in good quality linens and all those comfy blankets you can wrap yourself around.
While taking out the garbage, you can also choose which things you really want to start your new life. The things you throw away don’t necessarily have to be related to that person. You can get rid of stuff you no longer want and remind you of your past self that you wish to change. Once you’re left with the things you really want, it’s time to reorganize your stuff. If possible, change the position of your furniture, experiment with decoration, and create a whole new place clean from all those things in the past that could make you feel sad.
Simplicity can go a long way. You can buy intricate bean bag sofas in the local flea market or you can adapt garden swings for the bedroom, a comfy pillow can be just the trick you need. Also don't be afraid to give objects that you don't use a new purpose, like a wooden ladder.
The most important thing to bear in mind while redecorating your place is to always think of yourself, on the things you want, and in making this new spot your sanctuary. You like a particular paint color in your walls that others would consider weird? Who cares? Paint it. Those beddings are way too much? You shouldn't care. Your place, your rules. If getting an unconventional painting on your wall makes you happy, just do it. The trick is to fill the place with reminders of what makes you happy so whenever you’re about to have a meltdown or just feel a bit blue you can look at these and fill a bit better.
The quirkier, the better!
Finally, you know what they say about retail therapy? Go to the market, the mall, or wherever you want and get some stuff to refresh your place. You don’t have to spend too much; thinking and selecting things for your newly refurbished room will distract you and, most importantly, make you feel excited about your project.
Of course, if you’re really having a bad time, the best thing is to seek help. I know breakups can be terrible, and sometimes we don’t even have the strength to get up in the morning and continue with our lives. But to be honest, at the end of the day, the only one that ends up losing with that attitude is yourself. That’s why projects like these not only help keep ourselves busy, but they can give us a new perspective about something, and this can be the best therapy to overcome a heartbreak. Changes are always good, and they’re better if they’re changes you’re doing for yourself.
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