One of the most valuable lessons taught by the Kamasutra is to identify sexual compatibility. This has nothing to do with sexual positions nor about penis or vagina size. You only need to be emotionally compatible with your partner and trust each other. This way you can be honest about your expectations during sex. Although this may sound simple, it isn’t as easy to achieve.
Every person has different tastes and turn-ons, which can change over time. So here comes the good and the bad news: the only way to know how sexually compatible you are with other person is by experimenting and having sex, as well as being open about what you like and don’t.
There isn’t a foolproof method to find out who will satisfy you or viceversa. But here you’ll find some points you and your partner can discuss together to have a better idea. Answer them honestly, so you’ll be able to figure out what to expect from one another. This will help keep you healthy and safe.
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Sex Drive Compatibility
It doesn’t matter how much you love each other, sex won’t be fulfilling unless you have similar tastes or want to have sex with the same frequency. If one neglects their needs trying to please the other, things will only end up in frustration. The key is to find a balance. Take turns satisfying each other and you’ll strengthen your bonds.
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Please yourself
It is very important to know our bodies and our turn-ons to tell our partners what we like during sex. This way, you’ll also find out the kinks you share.
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Monogamy or polygamy
Having multiple relationships helps you find out what suits you best. Nowadays, we have studies backing polygamy as part of human nature. You’re free to disagree and walk away if you don’t want to get involved in this kind of relationship. Just don’t judge people who think differently. Remember we’re all diverse and find fulfillment in different lifestyles.
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You don’t need to turn into a copy of your partner
Just as every person has an identity of their own, their tastes in sex can be as different. It’s not healthy to behave in a certain way just to please someone else. This also means relationships must have some give and take. If you can’t reach an agreement or find a way to make things work out, you may consider taking a break. What’s most important here is to be honest with each other and with yourselves.
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Trust
This is definitely the most important point of the list. You must trust and have respect for each other so you can say what you like or dislike during sex. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a serious relationship with your sexual partner or if it’s just a fling. The more honest you are, the more you’ll enjoy the experience and your time together.
Sexuality isn’t essential to define your happiness. However, this important part of life can be fulfilling as long as there’s communication between you and your partner. It’s not about chemistry or expertise, but honesty.
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Sources:
uncomo.com
elpais.com
discoverymujer.com
Translated by Andrea Valle Gracia