“When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.” Oscar Wilde
Why not fall in love?
Love is a feeling that will elevate you to a state of unadulterated joy and is accompanied by ecstasy and wellbeing. Nothing lasts forever, and in many cases these romances wither away and only time will ease the pain. Life is too short to be wallowing in heartbreak or unrequited loves.
Why lay down your life for the love of a single person, when this feeling can be shared in innumerable ways, free from codes of conducts that force you to enter relationship dynamics that ultimately fray that love until it finally breaks away? Wouldn’t it be better to enjoy the greatness of life and share this boundless love across all equals and living things without jealousy, yearning or sadness?
If you share this thought and love is secondary, try to make the most of each day by following these eight steps. These are situations that are harder to come by once you fall on the heady traps of love.
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Travel the World
Without the need to be terribly missing someone, feeling incomplete or alone, embarking on an adventure to a place you have always wished to know is the first step. Carrying your backpack and setting off to unknown lands is one of life’s imperatives. This enjoyment cannot be fully replicated in any other stage of life. Travel to those unknown corners of the world where you can learn about new cultures, cuisines, and thousands of different ways of thinking and acting.
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Learn Languages
You can pour your free time into this productive activity that will increase your professional worth, cultural acumen, and even reinforce your brain activity. Learning a new language is hard and at the beginning may seem impossible; however, with some dedication your brain will begin to absorb these new words and phrases.
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Learn New Things
Forget academia. It doesn’t matter your profession or age: it is never too late to learn something new. Are you passionate about contemporary dance, cooking, astronomy, or Buddhist meditation? Take a beginners course on the activities you have always wanted to undertake, but for one reason or another you have never taken the time to try. If at the end of the course you are left wanting more, sign up indefinitely, and you’ll see how your body and mind become healthier.
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Become a volunteer
What if all the time you wasted on past relationships, misunderstandings, and fights could have been used differently, such as helping those in need? There are many paths open to you, such as becoming a Doctor Without Borders (MSF), or a volunteer in associations ranging from people with disabilities or those living in areas of conflict. Travel and support environmental conservation programs and campaign for the protection of endangered species and ecological reserves.
Here you will find some options that will help you become a volunteer.
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Devote Yourself to Your Passions
Have you ever felt inspired by someone that was incredibly knowledgeable about a subject, such as a movie critic, musician, scientist or artist? You too can become an expert.
No matter how complicated it may seem, with perseverance you can become an impassioned expert in whichever field you aspire to. You can become an authority in the subject of your choosing. The main point is to actively practice and be aware of current events in order to transcend in your field.
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Meeting Countless Different People
It is not necessary to travel to the other side of the globe to meet new people. You will discover that each brain is a world of its own and that establishing a meaningful relationship is harder than you think. Engage with all these ways of thinking and actions (even sex), and you will acquire a deeper and more realistic view of the world you live in.
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Know Thyself
‘Know thyself’ may seem like an easy rule to follow, but achieving a real introspection and truly knowing yourself is a forgotten necessity in today’s society. Before stepping into any sentimental relationship with another person, you have to know who will be beside you until the end of your life’s path: yourself.
To learn about your tastes, passions, and all the dark areas that influence your personality will not only help you choose the people to you share your life with, but also help you make better decisions. On the long run you will lead a happier life.
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Enjoy Your Friendships
When a person finds a formal partner, it’s quite common for friendships to take a secondary role. Those moments of fun, experimentation, and adventure with the people you chose to accompany you for the rest of your life become less frequent or simply fade into fond memories.
Enjoy your friends, the value of friendship and those moments where you can enjoy and be happy without the need of a partner.
